Who You Be?

Now, stay with me. This is crucial in the resilience and wellness process.

Most of us spend our lives answering the question

“Who are you?”

And every answer circles back to a role.

Mom. Teacher. Helper. Leader.

Everything we do for others.

But those answers do not tell you who you are at your core.

They only tell you who you are to other people.

This is why in my work, I ask something different.

I ask

“Who do you be?”

An English teacher may not approve, and that is fine.

Because this question pulls you past your titles and into your truth.

It takes you out of performance and into identity.

It helps you see the part of you that stays steady even when life is not.

Let me share two moments that made this real for me.

Years ago, in our toddler room, a child was hurt.

There were several adults in the room, but someone sent a student to get me.

Later, the teacher said,

“You are the calmness in the room. Everyone settles when you show up.”

That moment taught me something important.

My peace is not my job.

My peace is who I be.

And years later, during a coaching session, a woman told me she held onto something I once shared.

I said, “I reserve that time before I walk out the door, so I can put on my own oxygen mask before helping anyone else.”

She told me, “I did not know I was allowed to do that. Now I aim for that in my own life.”

People learn from your peace.

They learn from the way you protect it.

They learn from the identity you choose to live from.

So again, I ask you: What is one moment this week when you acted from who you be, not from the role you play?